How We Hurt The Ones We Love

Ingrid Albrecht
Lawrence University
Paradoxically, the practical necessity of love seems to combine the personal character of psychological necessity with the inescapable and authoritative quality of moral necessity. Traditionally, philosophers have avoided this paradox by treating love as an amalgam of impersonal evaluative judgments and affective responses. On my account, love participates in a different form of practical necessity, one characterized by a non-moral yet normative type of expectation. This expectation is best understood as a kind of second-personal address that does not support derivative third-personal demands. It is revealed when we react with hurt feelings instead of resentment upon its disappointment.
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